Bad Decisions 2: No Looking Back

Hiii Guys!!! Oh, how much I missed you aLL ;)

Where do I begin? The past few weeks have been rough, emotionally and mentally, that I don't even know where to start. My repetitive action of bad decision making has once again bit me in the ass; leaving me to question myself along with my value of character. For as long as I can remember I have never been confronted about any of these characteristics, and because of that I was never mindful to what the end results may be or the feelings of someone else.

What’s even more disturbing is knowing that the same behaviors I’ve being checked on are the same that I too had once walked away from. How was I not able to identify these traits, I ask myself. Why should I expect someone else to accept my bull, when I know I didn’t?

I had to take a step back and really look at myself; why should someone else have to take notice in what you're doings Crys, how well do YOU know yourself?

I can sit here and talk you to death but who am I kidding, you don’t need to hear my failures; it’s all about solutions. With that being said, what I will do is take what I have learned {about myself} and gradually develop by showing self-growth. At the end of the day I have no one to blame but myself; however, I must say I am grateful, I now know things about me that I had no idea existed.

Am I proud of them, absolutely not! Quite honestly, every time I think of it, I become even more disgusted…SMH. Its time I grow up and be the woman I KNOW I am.

I'm sharing this with you guys because sometimes the buildup and pressure can become overwhelming and besides we always need that extended ear. If you find yourself in the same or similar predicament but maybe a little intimidated to put yourself out there, then I encourage you to use my confession as your stepping stone. It is unhealthy to continue throughout life and not speak on our emotional distress, it gives no resolution.

The most valuable lesson learned was to be more mindful, to others and towards my decision making, but most importantly learning how to confront and correct myself without anyone having too.


Always remember: Live life. Have fun. Stay motivated

Crys ;)

Memorize something everyday.

Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.

What Have You Done Lately

I don't know why the people around me invest so much into trying to prove their point to me.
My whole life, other has always used there emotions, attitude and their miss guided ways of thinking
To insult me or try to bump me off my path. Well, I have news for you guys, time and time again you have tried and time & time again you have failed.
The reason for your failure, I'm smart, I don't invest into your negative opinions.


I'm a dreamer and there is no secret about that. I've done everything I've wanted and continue to seek the invisible.
That should tell you something! I don't respect talker's, the do it tomorrow type of person, as if the present
isn't the best time.


I guess what I'm trying to say is, you need to look in the dam mirror before you talk about other's. Look at yourself and answer those question swirling around in you head.
You know the questions I'm talking about, the ones that make you feel slightly ill because you know you don't act on what you talk about. You never take that first step because your scared, your afraid of failure or your afraid of what other's might think or say about you.

If you're doing what you love, their negative opinions is because they can't do what you're doing.
They don't take risk and the best way to help those people, is to keep going and remain consistent. Stay on course! Quick example, I've NEVER liked Kobe Bryant, until the other day I was watching some clips of him. As I was watching I started to respect him more and more, when he's in the game he doesn't care who likes him or not. It's all about winning, thats all he cares about and I like that. My point is, stay on your course and pursue your dreams with relentless passion.

I wrote this today because of issues I've been dealing with personally and thought if would be helpful.

If you're having a bad or great day share it with us at Motivatewright. It's all about helping others.


Until the next time..


"Seek the invincible, do the impossible & create a legacy.
Beyond this, what follows shall bare the fruit of a life lived as
a soldier, a visionary, but above all else an icon." -1&2

Fearon

Success. A Way Of Life.

Motivateright FAMILY!!! We’ve made it to the final element of the series. As I’ve mentioned before; the elements have been discussed in a specific order with a purpose. If it doesn’t make sense to you already; I will explain it next week as we discuss the series as a whole. For now, let’s talk about the final element.

SUCCESS. A Way Of Life.

Success-

1. the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.

2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.

Success can look very different to each one of us. For some it may be earning a lot of money. For others it may mean doing what we love. Regardless, of what your idea of success; everyone wants to feel successful. If you disagree, raise your hand. Nope, no hands! ;) It’s important that you define success for yourself in order to recognize once you’ve reached a “success worthy” point. I’ll explain. Many people are on a constant journey to reach this so called point, success. When in actuality, you can be successful everyday. I have a list of goals. Short and long term. I know what my goals but the goals can be hard to keep track of on a daily basis. The goals range from my health to the number of books I will write by the year 2012. More often than not, life happens and I don’t get to work on a specific goal or my focus changes and a certain goal is no longer as much a priority as another. Does that mean I’m not successful?

Well, I’ll assume that we all have goals in life. Wether they be big or small, we all strive for something. Too often, we take an approach of totality; an all or nothing mindset. I will use my goal of leading a healthy lifestyle as an example:

Sometimes, I’m late for my boxing class for whatever reason. Instead of thinking, “It’s okay if I’m late; let me just get there”, I choose not to go and miss out on working out completely.(By the way, I don’t do this often...just in case my gym family is reading!) :) Making the decision not to go, ruined my chances of being successful with my “health” goal for that day.

This philosophy goes for any other goal. When you waste an opportunity to succeed on a day to day basis; your goals seem that much harder to achieve. Are you willing to work on your future every day?

Things to remember:

Know your goals. Take the time to write down your goals in detail and have them posted somewhere visible to you.

An opportunity missed; is a step backwards. Standing still will never get you to where you want to be.

Do what you can today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

Monday!!! Why must you wait until Monday to start working on your goals. Start today. It’s okay...Monday won’t hold a grudge.

Success can be achieved everyday; if you choose it!

Success. A Way Of Life.

Again, thank you for your feedback, comments, etc. Feel free to leave your thoughts below! Don’t miss next week’s post... A Way Of Life. The series.


BLESSINGS...

~Frances xoxo

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Happiness. A Way Of Life.

Happiness. A Way Of Life.

I can’t put into words the excitement I feel at this particular moment!!! I’ve been attempting to write this post for a week now and for different reasons I haven’t been able to focus. Wether my phone was a distraction, social media or just my thoughts being unorganized in my head; it’s been a hectic week! I like working against time but this is ridiculous! LOL...The positive is that I couldn’t be writing this post at a better time than right NOW. I just got news that will change my life forever in a good way.(Hopefully, I can share soon!) I don’t believe in coincidences so I know that today is the best day for me to write this post. ‘Happiness. A Way Of Life.’

Happiness-
~ the quality or state of being happy.
~ good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy.

If you know me personally, you understand that I live by this. It’s rare when I’m not happy but I’m human so I do have my moments. People consistently ask me why I always seem so happy and my response is always, “Why not? I’m a firm believer that you attract what you give off therefore being happy has a purpose for me and the people that I come in contact with. There are so many ways that we can address the subject of happiness but too often, I hear people say, “I just want to be happy!” What does that statement mean? I can only speculate. Does it mean you’re not happy now? Does it mean you’re looking to be happy in the near future or is it just that you feel that being happy is something you have to work towards? At some point in my life, I remember making the statement above. Not because I felt like I was unhappy but because I felt like there were more things that could make me happier. To an extent, this is true. There are many things, people, achievements that can make you happier but those are only temporary. The happiness you feel from external sources can make you feel happier for specific periods of time. For example:

I want a Mercedes Benz! I do everything in my power to get it and until I do I’m not happy. I’m finally able to purchase the Benz. I’m so happy. I show it off. Wash it. Detail it and every time someone asks me what I ‘m driving, I poke my chest out with pride and say, “A Benz”. As the years pass; the Benz starts getting older and I’m now looking at all the newer cars. The Benz doesn’t make me as happy anymore. I get to the point where I want another car and until I get it; I won’t be happy, AGAIN! (Just an example; I drive a Honda & I’m happy with that!!! LOL)

The point of this example is to illustrate that you will never be happy if you’re consistently looking for external sources to make you happy. A nice car, good job, significant other, money, the perfect body; none of these things separately or combined will make you happy for a lifetime. Happiness comes from within!!! Let me reiterate that... Happiness comes from WITHIN. You must be happy with yourself, by yourself and for yourself before you look for external sources to make you “happy”. Think about it this way. You only have control over one thing in this life; that’s YOU. Sometimes, it’s even hard for us to control one self therefore how can one have an expectation that some thing or someone else can make one happy. Let that marinate! Through the years I’ve learned that, “happiness is not a destination; its a way of life.” Meaning that when you strive to live every day with joy, contentment and overall satisfaction with who you are; everything else is a bonus!

Things to think about:

Happiness, US. does not exist! Stop looking for a destination that will make you happy and understand you have the power over your own happy place everyday!
Material things come & go. Is that what you want your happiness to do...come & go?
You’re in control. As long as you control your emotions; happiness is a reality for everyone.
Embrace the feeling. Too often we think our feeling of happiness is too good to be true. Maybe it’s not!? Enjoy it!!!
Spread your joy! Don’t be ashamed to share your happiness with everyone. Sometimes sharing in itself is a reminder of how happy you actually are.

That being said...

I’m a extremely happy TODAY & TODAY is all that matters!!!

Thank you for the continued support. Love and Blessings to all of you & be on the look out for the last element of the series, “A Way Of Life” next week.

Enjoy the holiday weekend & be safe!!!

~Frances
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Commitment. A Way Of Life

Hi, FAM!!!

Don’t you guys love the new www.motivateright.com!?! I look forward to all the new and exciting ideas on the site, Fe. Your hard work is definitely appreciated!

So, we’re about midpoint in the ‘A Way Of Life’ series and so far the feedback has been amazing! Thank you all for taking the time to read, share your thoughts and experiences with me.  The 3 elements we’ve discussed thus far have built a strong foundation for the rest of the series. Honesty, Selflessness and Love are essential in life as we have discussed in detail in the past blog posts.(I can’t wait to piece these elements all together!) For now, let’s discuss the next element...

Commitment. A Way Of Life.

Commitment-

1. The act or state of being committed; dedication; a pledge; setting aside something

2. An obligation; vow, promise, oath, contract, pact, deal

3. An engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action

Commitment, the word itself, is thrown around carelessly. It’s one of those words that people use and don’t necessarily understand the meaning and/or substance that goes along with it. Often, we hear, “I am committed to helping you reach your goal” or “I’m in a committed relationship”. What does that mean? Take a look at the definition above.  The words used to define ‘commitment’ are absolute. Meaning no matter what situation may arise when you make a commitment, there’s no wavering allowed.  That being said...Let’s put it into context.

Example:

I am committed to reaching my goals. I work hard everyday. I learn about the things I need to do in order to reach those goals. I associate myself with people that have similar goals and seem to have support from them. Then I meet someone that I like. They take up a lot of my time and I enjoy them. This may be ‘the one’.  Little by little my goals are set aside and this person is not supportive to what I want in life but... I love them.

What to do? You’ve been committed to your goals until now. By definition, committing is an obligation.  You have to make a decision. Will you break that commitment in order to commit to someone or do you stay committed to yourself.

Now, let’s be real.  At this point in life, wether you want to admit it or not, we’ve all been in a situation where we have broken a commitment. ***Take a moment to think back and reflect on how breaking those commitments affected your life in the present. ***(This may take a while for some...don’t worry we have time!!!) No matter how big or small the impact on your life; failing to follow through with a commitment has changed your life. Some may argue it’s the best decision they have made, breaking a commitment and in any circumstance where the commitment made was an unhealthy choice for whatever reason, I agree. However, commitments, for the most part, are necessary to succeed in life. You can commit to be healthy, faithful, supportive and so much more!  Although some can do many of these things without making a commitment, making a commitment is a way of holding yourself responsible. In other words, we all need to be held accountable.  How else would we gauge our progress unless we make commitments in our day to day living.

What commitments have you made lately and how have you managed to stick to them?

Things to remember:

1. Making a commitment is one thing; sticking to it is what makes it worthwhile.
2. Where would you be today if you never made any commitment?
3. At the end of the day, you choose the commitment. Choose wisely!

Please feel free to share about some of your commitments/ struggles to keep those commitments and /or strategies you have used.  Let’s support each other as we walk through this journey most of us call ‘LIFE’.

Commitment. A Way Of Life.

As always...THANK YOU

The Wright Word: So True

The Wright Word: So True: "Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them."